Howdy and welcome from Northern Iowa.
, you should hear a clunk BEFORE each shift, this is normal, and consistent, every time.
If it clunks when moving the shift lever....
In your owners manual page 114. You can get a free digital copy
"To avoid damaging the transmission, move the shift select lever only when the vehicle is stopped and the engine is idling."
Complete STOP, and sometimes you have to wait 3 - 8 seconds for the Honda engine to get back to IDLE.
Sad to say, but it is not something we are used to doing. 8 seconds, is a LONG time to wait to shift.
And we don't, then we get the clunk.
Some things that WILL / DO
burn up our clutches:
1) high gear, pulling to heavy of a load, lugging in high
. . . drivers not knowing that LOW is the way to go
2) holding the vehicle stopped on an uphill slope with the transmission and not the brake
. . . clutches are just sitting there spinning, BURNING
3) shifting between high and reverse when not stopped and engine at idle
. . . driver tries to rock themselves out of being stuck, bang, bang, by by transmission
4) or when stuck they accelerate slowly
. . . If the tires are not moving/spinning, STOP!
If there is "so much of noise I was waiting for the trans to come apart."
Video it, post it on YouTube and post the link here.
Have a good day